THE GENDER WARS- African Women...playing the second fiddle!

Dear LIB readers: I can't stand my wife anymore; s...: From a male LIB reader: "I found out my wife of 11 years cheated on me with some guy. This was last year June. She confessed to me ...From a male LIB reader:

"I found out my wife of 11 years cheated on me with some guy. This was last year June. She confessed to me after I confronted her with the facts. I decided to forgive her and stay married to her because I have cheated on her in the past too and I didn't want to destroy our family because we have four small children together. The thing now is; I don't love her anymore. I can't stand her and can't even bare to touch her. When she talks to me I get so angry I feel like stabbing her in the eye but I've never laid hands on her. I don't talk to her much except when we want to talk about the kids. We live in the same house but as strangers. She's really tried to make it up but it's not working. I actually hate it when she's around me, and haven't touched her since I found out about the cheating

I thought my anger and disgust at her would fade with time but it's been 9 months and I still feel this way. Will this anger ever go away or should I just end things with her? I strongly do not support anyone (man or wife) cheating on a spouse, but isn't it funny how when its a man involved in cheating, a woman's just expected to forgive and let go, and let the same man (who climbed some other women and probably got some "claps" or worse too)make love to her? After all, "he is still her husband"!
Oh yeah! But when its the woman involved, its unheard of that she is completely forgiven. O dear! Mr Poster, how can you bear to touch her again with the knowledge that she broke your marital vows(vows that you have forever cherished and "never broken"?
Bikko I beg you in the name of God, DO NOT tell us now that you're going to stay married to her out of pity, if you do not want her anymore, please set her free and let her move on with her life while she's still young. No matter that it could have been your infidelity in the past that paved the way for her adultery. Set her free and let her bear the pain of being a divorcee, perhaps she might still find fulfillment in life again if she truly repents and asks God's forgiveness. Staying stuck in a marriage where a man can hardly stand your presence let alone your touch? That hurts and can lead to suicide.