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Nigerians are a rare breed. No other people of any race and clime I know, are so good at "copyright" or like I love to say "Copy-better"!  Trust me, Nigerians can adopt and adapt a style or culture, and modify it in ways that make it totally unrecognizable to the originators/inventors.
Doubt me? Check out the fashion scene and you'll have no problem believing me.
 (only wish they'll just copy some wonderful aspect of technology from the Western World, modify it and get them begging for a piece of the action already)...#Justsayingandwishing! you know what they say about wishes.

Now I have been tempted on several occasions to come to the conclusion that the “copyright/copybetter” is inherent in every thoroughbred Nigerian. Now that wouldn’t be such a bad thing if my wishes would somehow become a reality. That's not the case however. It seems we have consciously or unconsciously settled for copying the more negative aspects of other people’s culture and modifying it. What we find for example, is that we have become better at adaptation or trendsetting(in some laudable cases) than the people of any known clime *IMO*
Lets take a trip down memory lane. Am pretty sure you’ll recall a time when the “Makossa dance” was the rave of the moment in Nigeria. Nigerians only stopped short of forgetting and relegating every known original Nigerian dance step and style to the back burners. Every song became adapted to Makossa dance instead of  the reverse being the case.  Every Nigerian made it a point of duty to learn the Makossa dance *or risk the ol’ skool label/tag”. It took Lagbaja’s “Konko-below” dance step and Weird MC’s ‘Ijoya” (and gratefully so), to save us from that self-inflicted cultural slavery.

THE GENDER WARS- African Women...playing the second fiddle!

Dear LIB readers: I can't stand my wife anymore; s...: From a male LIB reader: "I found out my wife of 11 years cheated on me with some guy. This was last year June. She confessed to me ...From a male LIB reader:

"I found out my wife of 11 years cheated on me with some guy. This was last year June. She confessed to me after I confronted her with the facts. I decided to forgive her and stay married to her because I have cheated on her in the past too and I didn't want to destroy our family because we have four small children together. The thing now is; I don't love her anymore. I can't stand her and can't even bare to touch her. When she talks to me I get so angry I feel like stabbing her in the eye but I've never laid hands on her. I don't talk to her much except when we want to talk about the kids. We live in the same house but as strangers. She's really tried to make it up but it's not working. I actually hate it when she's around me, and haven't touched her since I found out about the cheating
I thought my anger and disgust at her would fade with time but it's been 9 months and I still feel this way. Will this anger ever go away or should I just end things with her?